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Going through changes

##2 I’ve been going through a lot of changes lately,mentally and physically, and feel like something needs to be done. Online it is easy to lose yourself and forget who you actually are as an individual and I feel like I need some time to figure it all out; what I want to do, what I want to write and share on my blog. Brand and PR opportunities are super exciting and you feel great when you get contacted but I can easily get sucked into directions I don’t want to be following and sharing/writing about things that I am no longer passionate about.

I read a fabulous quote from Alexandre De Batak articulating perfectly how I feel at the moment. ‘We probably have pushed it so far that they’ll want everything to be slow. They’ll want everything to be the exact opposite’. Everything in life is so fast paced it can seem addictive and exciting, but when I prioritise taking photographs of my dinner and outfit photos at the beach I just feel like I could be doing something more fulfilling and actually appreciating life instead of creating these photographic memories which are actually just posed ‘having a good time’.

I like to be an observer rather than observed and I have never been comfortable in taking outfit photos, I am not a natural when it comes to fashion blogging but I do love and appreciate Fashion. I feel like there are other roads I can go down to share my passion with you guys instead of ‘Outfit of the day’s’. I have so much emotion and interest in other areas and posting what food tastes good isn’t really resonating with me. Again, I love Beauty and make-up but I can’t stand taking photographs of my so called ‘face of the day’ because I can’t do make-up like a beauty blogger, and I can’t paint my nails all neat as they snap off all the time!

In a nutshell what I am trying to say is that my blog is based on other people’s ideas and constructions of what we should blog about– because everyone does it so to speak. So I am going to take some time to figure out the path I want to go down, but there is definitely going to be lots of changes. 

29 thoughts on “Going through changes

  1. I read this twice because I wanted to be sure I didn’t miss one, single word.

    Firstly, I would have never guessed that you would feel so “unnatural” doing fashion photos, or makeup for that matter, because you are a blogger I totally look at and think WOW. Your photos and makeup and fashion are always gorgeous to me.

    That being said, I 100% agree that your blog needs to be something you enjoy. Your passion. If your passion is not that stuff, junk it. I want to read about what you love and so does everyone else!

    Thirdly, I totally understand. I think I felt the same way in some of my posts (though I don’t have sponsors) being pressured to get likes and views and readers. Now I focus on the writing more than the other stuff. Sure, I write about it because I’ve always got food and makeup on the brain but I focus on telling the story or what I’ve learned over selling a product.

    Sorry to blow up your comments! I just feel so strongly and have so much love for you!!!! I cannot wait to see what you have in store for us 🙂 ❤ ❤

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    • Ah man you have made my day honestly, I never expect people to properly read these things etc! I absolutely love you for reading it and writing this. I do love your blog you are very in touch with your readers and down to earth etc I find it relate-able ❤ xxx

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      • Thank you and likewise ❤ You always have nice things to say about others and you are just one of the sweetest bloggers I know. The blogging world is full on beautiful photos and staged shots. I've never viewed you as one of those "superficial" ones.
        But really. I super duper can't wait to see how your posts evolve. Seriously. 🙂

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    • I was going to write my own comment but then I’ve realised that this reply sums up absolutely everything I was going to say.

      Completely know where you’re coming from Jess, and I personally am very excited to see what you come up with next as I know it’ll be fantastic. Don’t be afraid to break the mould!

      Claire | Stylingo.co.uk

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  2. Aww I think you’re one of the most kindest person I have come across so please do what makes you feel happy! I love your posts regardless because your lovely personality just comes through. I also enjoyed reading this post as I agree about the expectations, I don’t do fotd either and sometimes it’s important to just do what you feel comfortable with 🙂

    Velvet Blush

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  3. I can totally relate, sometimes we get so excited about working with others, we got lost somewhere. I had a long break and I’m now adding more posts about things that we are actually passionate about, become more selective with products I work on, and also become very selective for the Christmas feature. You’ll find that you are more excited writing about something when it is about something you really like, and the post is more natural and nice to read as well 🙂

    Don’t be afraid to take a step back. Take a deep breath and rethink things over, your blog will just become better, because it is yours. xxxxx

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  4. Lovely lady 🙂

    I like your style so much and love each and every single one of your OOTD posts :). You inspire my own style and give me the confidence to try new things with my fashion. You are so beautiful and always look gorgeous and so stylish in your beauty and fashion posts, not forgetting about your lovely photos! They always look so professional!

    Your blog is perfect in every way and I really enjoy reading your posts and always look forward to seeing what’s new :). Keep up the good work and I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for you! Never forget, always do what makes you happy!

    I hope that you are ok and I’ll look forward to speaking to you soon 🙂 El xx xx

    http://www.elsfashionfix.co.uk

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  5. I absolutely adore this post babe, so honest & true. I used to feel exactly the same. I felt I was missing out on life because I was constantly thinking I need to take a photo of this & document that just for my blog, but really, you should only be doing that for yourself.

    I hope you find the right path for you & still enjoying blogging as much as you did when you first started 🙂 xxx

    http://www.hello-cat.blogspot.com

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  6. I was nodding throughout the whole post whilst I was reading it. It is really easy to get suck in a direction that you don’t want to in blogging. Your contents are always fab but I am also excited of what’s to come from you Jess. Deep inside I know it will be amazing. Xx

    eLLa
    every LiTTLE thing07

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  7. I totally get what you mean and I’m trying so hard to not get sucked into blogging about things I don’t want to just because i think that might be what people want to read! I love your blog and I’ll carry on reading it whatever you write about 🙂 good luck with it and I look forward to seeing it! Xxx

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  8. can’t wait to see what you bring to your blog. I can see where you are coming from, it’s probably how many feel. DO you! I can’t wait and really enjoyed reading your honest thoughts. 🙂

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  9. omg Jess I am so proud of you for choosing to turn your blog for what you really think about things. I LOVE your outfit posts but I feel thrilled to see different things on your blog, good luck!!!

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  10. I definitely relate to this. I’ve done some wishlist posts which don’t really go with my blog’s theme, or tried to blog about makeup because other people do, when really, all i’m interested in is styling clothes. Looking forward to seeing new things that are more ‘you’ on the blog. And thank you for your lovely comments on my blog 🙂

    Emma at http://www.collagemepretty.com

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  11. Hi Jess, I agree that it’s so easy to get sucked into the idea of what blogs are supposed to look like or supposed to focus on. You should write about what you’re really passionate about- no matter what road that takes you down 🙂 Why not make a list of all the topics you would be interested in writing on and go from there.

    Good luck hun!

    Rachel xx
    http://www.thedailyluxe.net

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  12. Hey hun,

    I really loved this post, think you’re completely right. It’s so easy to say yes to blogging opportunities even when they start taking you off path from what you really want to write about!

    I say write what you’re passionate about, readers will either follow you down that path or you’ll get new ones which will mean more anyway. Got to do what’s best for you.

    Good luck Jess, looking forward to seeing what your new posts have in store 🙂

    Gabby xo

    http://Www.whatshebuys.co.uk

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  13. Jess you are an amazing blogger 🙂 & I always look forward to your amazing style & makeup posts! You are more than an outfit of the day type of girl, you posts are always meaningful & Your face is gorgeous! YOU CAN DO MAKEUP Like others! ❤ I have faith in you 🙂

    Serene | I Am Serene L

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  14. It’s interesting to find out all this and thanks for being so honest to share with us.
    I say No to blogging assignments and requests quite often, when they don’t fit my blogging purposes. It’s easy to blog about too many topics and get lost, so take your time to think of your concept and find your niche. You don’t need to spill out your soul with every post, but you can focus on developing a certain way of writing, or just blog about something very specific, of which you have opinion of your own to voice out. Do what you feel is write and what makes you happy!
    Good luck xx

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  15. Have to do what makes you happy lovely! I’ve loved your blog for years though and it’s always been fabulous, so I can’t wait to see your new direction (and your outfits/make up are ALWAYS beautiful even if you don’t think so) – this outfit is a real beaut by the way! xxxxxx

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  16. Yeah dude I totally get it. I hate taking pictures of myself…that’s when you make the full transition to “lifestyle blog” lol. Blog about whatever you want! I’ll still read it 🙂

    COOCOO FOR COCO

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  17. I just feel like I could be doing something more fulfilling and actually appreciating life instead of creating these photographic memories which are actually just posed ‘having a good time’.

    Giiiirrrl. I feel you. 100% this is what I felt a few months ago. I was so done with photographing everything. I just wanted to live life and not worry about snapping a photo.

    Do you and write about what you want! It’s your blog! you know I’ll be here still reading 😉

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